Aprender a jugar pickleball con tu pareja: experiencias reales

0:00recent good mornings. We are here at the Pictona PPA, which is the last PPA of the year. It's just Angelito and me. Carlitos is on vacation. We're going to miss this episode, but hey, it's necessary, isn't it? Yes, yes, that's what it's about. He's been working hard. We already gave him his vacation. It's his turn , it's his turn. He deserves it, he deserves it because he's really going a little crazy now.

0:23Yes, it's starting to drive us crazy. He's making a mess of the house all the time. All the clothes are scattered and dirty. I mean, bro, take a break, go on, take your vacation. We're sending it to Texas right now. Yes, please go there, enjoy your vacation. Carlos, I'm sending you my regards, I love you very much, don't be naughty. And well, speaking of Carlos, right now he's on his way to a road trip

0:45to Texas, as we said, he's going with his wife. So, we're going to talk today about what we think of couples who play Pickel Ball together, right? Yes. Let's tell our stories, shall we? You tell me your story first, Angelita. Well, my story, my wife, I've been married to her for 7 years. At first, when I started playing pick, uh, I was very addicted. I, phew, I think I was finishing my job, my

1:17old job. Uh, I just got home, changed, and ran out to the courts. He would play for 6 hours while my wife waited at home. Well, that's how I was, I was like that for a while, a couple of months. Every day I went and played, and every day I played; I spent more time on the court, I met more people on the courts than I did at home. But then I reached a point, a

1:42moment where I felt like I was losing control of my situation with my partner. I was losing it, I was kind of spending too much time on the courts playing pick and I was kind of neglecting my personal situation at home, right? Or my partner. And that's when I had to make a decision, I had to find a balance, and I loved the sport so much, I loved my partner so much that

2:10[snort] I decided, let's see how I can involve the two new lives I have together. And well, at first my wife is the most anti-sports woman there is, she doesn't know how to play anything, nothing. She's a dancer, she likes to dance and all that, but she knows nothing about sports . And one day I just started and we said, "Come on, come with me to the courts, let's go,

2:33let's play." No, it's just that I don't know, I do n't want to, I don't like to play. And I said, "Come on, let's try it, let's see what happens, let's see if you like it or not." Well, we decided to go to the courts, we started playing ball, she and I, and my wife started to like it. Incredibly, at first she couldn't even get the ball over the net, meaning it was difficult to

2:58follow the sequence of strokes with her. It was boring, that's the word, it was extremely boring at first, but as the days went by it started to get better, it started to pass the balls, I mean, it became really fun. And as we kept going to the courts, the ball started to be passed more, we started to follow the rallies and the rhythms a little more , things started to get really fun and without realizing it

3:24, my wife was my first student, so to speak. I wasn't a coach yet, I wasn't anything like that, but at that moment when I saw that helping my wife understand how to pass the ball, it was like I said, I think I'm going to dedicate myself to this because for my wife to be able to learn to play the pick, it means that I was doing it right at that moment.

3:50And why? Because he doesn't have good coordination, I mean, because he does n't have any sports background, nothing. He never played any kind of sport. He likes sports. She watches a lot of sports on television and all, but she lacks flexibility and mobility; she's a bit lazy. Okay. Pana Travis. Good, good, good. So, I went, we kept moving forward , we kept moving forward and until she told me what she wanted, when she

4:17said, "Let's go to the courts, that's when the game changed for me." In other words, that's where I found the perfect opportunity to bring the two worlds together and keep the peace, as we say in Venezuela. Of course not. And I think it's actually a super important topic you're touching on right now, and it's great that you were able to find that balance because I really feel that the sport of Pickel Ball is

4:46so addictive simply because you go one day and by the second day you're already much better, right? So, I feel like you always have that dopamine rush, especially at the beginning, where you feel on top of the world because you're constantly improving, but the problem with that is it becomes so addictive that you sacrifice a lot of things. You sacrifice, as you say, your romantic relationship as you had it. You were probably very

5:15selfish at the beginning, forgetting everything, because all you were looking for was like going back to school as a child and all you're looking for is for the day to end so you can get out of class, right? Nothing else matters, you know? Or is it Friday? And you know you're going to meet up with your friends, nothing else matters, right? So I think that's a very important topic to address, especially if they're playing with their

5:41partners, right? We'll talk about the competitive aspect later, which is even more complicated, but it is important to find that balance, right? Balance balance. My story is a little similar. When I met Pickerall, my girlfriend, currently my girlfriend, with whom I've been for 6 years, she didn't play any racket sports, but she's one of those people that life blessed with being an incredible athlete. You teach her something and in 2 minutes she's

6:18already better than you. He grabbed it quickly. So, for me, the complicated thing was that I wanted her to fall in love with the sport and not do it for me. Exactly, because what we did was a month after I learned about Pickle Ball, we went on vacation to the Bahamas and I specifically got a hotel where there were pickle ball courts and that's where we started playing and all because in my

6:43mind it was if I help her like you do to understand the game and become a good player, she can be my training partner, you know? So that was my goal, but at first he didn't like it very much. At first she did it only for me until a moment when I clicked, she did n't do the opposite, it was like I saw that every time I asked her to play

7:07with me, to train with me, she did it with less and less enthusiasm. Okay. So I reached a point where I told her, "That's it for me. If you want to play with me again, I'd be happy to , but I'm going to train with different people because it was already causing friction in our relationship. It was clear she was only doing it for me; she wasn't doing it with the same desire or enthusiasm for

7:35her anymore. So, that friction was noticeable, and I said, 'I don't want to keep affecting our relationship.' If she likes it and wants to do it again and wants to resume the sessions with me, we can do it again." So, for two or three months she stopped playing. Then we started the Guacamole program, and she decided to start coming to the sessions. At that time, since her skill level wasn't good, my friend

8:02Hector, who's also at about the same level, and I don't know if you remember, we'd put them on a court. Oh, yeah, right? He was always there. We'd give them the same instructions, but obviously, since they weren't paying, I didn't have the time to give them the full instruction, but I would give them theirs. Space, I gave them their court because we had a lot of courts at 5 in the morning and they started playing well

8:25and all, and I remember that time, and then later, as she started to improve, she started to like it, but what she didn't like because of the friction between partners was that I was coaching her, so I would say something to her. If I said something to her, she wouldn't listen, but if you spoke to her, I even told her, "Angelito, you're going to be her coach because she doesn't

8:47listen to me." Everything I say to her makes it sound like I'm scolding her. It's like, for example, when you play games with your partner, I don't like to play tournaments or games like that with my wife because there's so much trust that you end up talking too much . You know? I mean, excuse me. [clears throat] The trust is so great that you start yelling at her in a way that

9:16you wouldn't normally yell at when you play with another partner or a friend. You don't even yell at her, you just say things that hurt the other person. Exactly. I mean, it's not about yelling, it's about the excess of trust. So it makes the other person feel pressured too, because I saw it in my wife. She felt pressure to do well so I would n't get upset, and it wasn't that she was upset, that she wasn't

9:40doing what I was asking her to do, it was that I was getting upset, that she suddenly wouldn't move and wouldn't give me the Space, it was overcommunication. Of course, that's what I often tell my students. Look, it's complicated to play with your life partner; it's difficult because there's an excess of trust, of communication, and sometimes that damages the game. You get so confident, I mean, you put so much pressure on yourself sometimes, that you

10:07end up doing the opposite. Going back to the topic of couples, I remember that your girlfriend was like that, I mean, you'd explain to her how to do the exercise, and she'd be like, "I don't understand," or "I don't want to understand." And I'd go and explain the exact same thing, the same technique, and she'd do it in two seconds. Exactly. So, the same thing happened with my wife; we kept playing with this, the thing is,

10:36I became more competitive. She never wanted to do competitions or anything, but she always wanted to go play. And when I noticed that, I even became a coach, okay? I started looking for a stable job, right? At the facility, and she fell in love with the sport. And watching me play and accompanying me to the tournaments she's working with me on in the business. I mean, sometimes she even helps me teach, right? She

11:03teaches me, sometimes she helps me with some students who are really short, she helps me throw them the ball and correct a few things, she's even becoming a coach. So, [clears throat] the conclusion of this is, the recommendation, the recommendation, please, find the balance. Sports are beautiful, sports are addictive, but family is more important. Family is more important than sports. Uh, find the balance. It's possible, I'm telling you, David is telling you, you can

11:39have both at the same time, at the same level. Okay. It's simply a matter of sitting down, talking it over with your partner, that's really important too, I mean, making things clear. Look, my love, my goal is to play in these tournaments. Uh, but talk, talk, don't stay silent. The courts will always be there. The courts don't move. Believe me. The courts will be there, new people will be coming all the time,

12:05but home and family are one and the same, and they should be for life. Okay. Yes. And I think it's not impossible to play with your partner, but

12:28excuse me, I'm sure this is going to sound very loud, so that's why I stopped, but I think it's important to know yourself first. If you're very competitive and your partner—whether you're the woman and the best player or the man—if you're very competitive and your partner isn't, it's very complicated. It's complicated. It's true. It's true. Another thing, respect on the court is essential, very important, essential, because, for example, my partner and I

13:01now know that we can't play together because we have completely different mindsets. She feels a lot of pressure playing with me because she says, "What makes me most nervous about playing with you is that I know I'm representing you now, I'm representing your business, and I can't let you down ." So that's a lot of pressure for her, and I understand it perfectly, especially because of the way... I train, I'm serious and all. And finally,

13:33the fact that I learned that and said, "You know what?" You're right, but now that he's started playing tournaments, he played his first tournament last month, and he won it. Damn, congratulations. Nine games, he only lost one and won. You have no idea how much I enjoyed watching her play and things that happen live; they can't be avoided so you can see how original we are. That's it

14:12. I lost my mind. What are we talking about? You were talking about the couple you're driving now. Ah, yes. And in the tournament itself I enjoyed coaching her without putting any pressure on her, literally as if she were a student. And he took the advice very well because, interestingly, the only game they lost in the pol play round I had as a student. No, they played against them in the final. Okay. By the

14:41end, I already knew they had done wrong. So, yes, I mean, what I told him, because what happened was that my partner was, I mean, stronger than the one with his partner who was playing, they did n't pay any attention to him. So, what I told him, you know what? You have to play to the left, you have to play stack, and you have to make sure you get in

15:02. Now I want you to take 70% of the court because they're going to try not to give you a single ball if they can. Then they were injured and won. It was good. They won in three and, like, more than feeling proud of the brand and all, I just enjoyed watching her compete, seeing her nervous, seeing her, you know? Because it's something that you really enjoy as a student, but

15:28as a partner, seeing her overcome those fears was incredible. Feel it, feel it, exactly. You feel what one goes through, you know? So you can see the reality that one goes through. Sometimes you're on the field and things aren't going your way, and unfortunately the first person you see is your partner, and sometimes you take out some frustrations on them. They're not to blame, but that's what partners are for sometimes . The walls are there to

15:49listen, to endure that moment. I am so grateful to my wife. My wife has been incredibly patient with me . Thank you so much, my love. I love you. Because from the first day I started playing, she went everywhere with me, everything. That's what she liked, traveling, that is, enjoying trips. Yes, that part. That's when I said, "Well, I have to find a balance in this. If I'm going to play this,

16:11I'm going to have to take my wife with me ." Clear. And that also got her more involved in the sport. Even she knows the rules thanks to coming to see me at so many tournaments. Clear. She learned to play Pable just by watching the tournaments she went to, without even researching on the internet or anything. I repeat, she didn't care about sports, but she saw it so much that she became curious, and when one

16:34day she told me to go to the courts, that was it for me, I had succeeded, thank God. I achieved the fusion, the fusion. And believe me, after that, when you get that balance, David, uh, life on the pickable is much easier . Of course, it 's much more comfortable, much more peaceful, less stressful. Okay, to end this episode, give the residents three pieces of advice. What not to do with your partner when you go

17:02recreationally to a park or your club? Three things you shouldn't do that will 100% affect your relationship. Okay. Number one, the most important one, don't yell at him. Don't yell at him in front of other people. Remember that she is your partner, not your friend, not your wife, the woman who lives with you. Second, support her. Support each other, especially if she's not a good player, help her. Help her enjoy the game. And thirdly, enjoy it.

17:33Enjoy it, because in the end, this game is meant to be enjoyed first and then competed in. Okay? Those would be Sí's three pieces of advice. My last piece of advice would be, if you're really going to do it to have fun, use it like a date, which is what we do now. For example, she and I go to a public park every two weeks and do it in a relaxed way.

17:55Hey, and that's trendy right now. There are many people, many relationships that are getting to know each other, thanks to the pic they go to the court, they meet, they become boyfriend and girlfriend and they continue, they move forward together. That's good, I like that. Anyway , I hope you enjoyed this episode, residents, and well, stay tuned for the next one from here in Daitona. We're going to look at the games now, and we'll

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